Does life happen to you or for you?

There are two mindsets we can all have: Owner and Victim.

An Owner is someone who takes responsibility for their life.  They use language like- You can count on it.  How can I use this?  If there’s a problem, I’m the problem.  An Owner believes that life happens for them, not to them.

A Victim is the opposite.  They use language like -Why does this always happen to me? Life is so unfair.  Who can I blame?  A Victim believes that life happens to them and because of this, they get weighed down when something bad happens.

Courage to be seen

I’ve done a lot of writing centered around my childhood trauma, specifically around the terrible things that my father did to me when I was a little boy.  As I continue to break away from my old story, and really remember who I am, I want to share with you a wonderful gift that my father and I gave each other along the way.

Fear of Disappointment

I haven’t been making time to write and it’s been weighing heavily on me.  Like a lot.  

Specifically, it’s been more than three months since my last newsletter.  Oh sure I’ve had a lot going on but in my mind three months is too long and with each passing week my thoughts have gotten more convincing… you’re disappointed with me. 

Judge Everyone. Forgive Nothing. Forget Who You Are.

The vision statement for my spiritual center is Love Only, Forgive Everything, Remember Who You Are.  To me this implies that if I bring love into all areas of my life and forgive all resentments, I won't lose site of who I am.   

But what happens if you do the exact opposite of Love Only, Forgive Everything, Remember Who You Are?  If you judge everyone and forgive nothing you forget who you are.  I know because I’ve done this.