The last time I sent out a blog was this past July. I wrote about intentions vs commitments and the difference between the two.
I wrote about how people intend to do things but sometimes don't follow because they don't have a system in place that guarantees success.
But what I didn't write about is what happens if you don't honor your commitment to yourself? What happens if your system breaks down? That's what's really important here in my opinion.
I made a commitment to myself last year to send out one blog post every month for the entire year. News flash - I didn't follow through with my commitment.
My system broke down and that's ok. The real opportunity is how am I going to be with myself when things like this occur?
Is it going to be blame, shame, guilt? Or something else like understanding, permission, compassion, loving kindness, etc.?
Last year was arguably the most challenging year of my entire life. I went through a divorce, sold a home, moved, and turned 50 just to name a few. That's a lot.
The last thing I needed to BE was hard on myself for not following through with my writing commitment. What I needed was kindness and compassion and loving. And that's what I gave myself!
So what about you? How are you with yourself when you don't honor your commitments?
Do you beat up on yourself? Do you isolate? Do you head to the pantry and grab junk food? Do you binge watch something on Netflix?
Or do you offer yourself kindness, understanding and compassion? My encouragement is option B!
Happy 2024!
Love,
Zak