My wife and I are in the process of buying our first house. We’ve looked at a lot of places together but when we walked into what will soon be our new home (fingers crossed) something felt magical and I immediately grabbed my wife’s hand.
Two days later we were in escrow. Talk about a big leap!
The day of inspections were on January 25th, the day of my mom’s birthday. Mom died a long time ago but I still talk to her as if she’s alive today. Every morning I tell her how much I love her and share things that are happening in my life. That morning was no different.
While driving to the property my wife and I talked to her. We wished her a happy birthday and asked her to be a part of the day’s inspections. Specifically to watch over us however she could.
It was a cold and rainy day and with the inspector inside doing his thing I decided to go to the backyard and take a look around. I noticed that the seller of the property had an area with a bunch of rocks with motivation sayings written on them. Stay positive. The light will always shine on you. Things like that. It was cute. I liked it.
I started to walk away but something in me told me to turn around and look back. There on the ground, sitting side by side, were two rocks I didn’t see before.
I welled up with tears. I believe it was my mom talking to me.
At first I thought she was reminding me that I’m enough just as I am. And maybe that’s all it was. Heck, it could’ve just been a random coincidence but as I sat with it over the next couple of days a deeper knowing came to me. I am enough to uplevel my life. A home purchase is big a upleveling and I’m worthy of that.
There’s a great book that I read a couple years ago called The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level. In it the author talks about hitting your ‘Upper Limit’ and how a lot of us get to an area of our life that we’ve always wanted to get to only to be overcome with stress, worry, doubt and fear. It’s a mechanism of self-sabotage that the author talks about because you are hitting what he calls your “Upper Limit”.
A lot of us do this. We get right to the edge of change(sometimes major/sometimes not) and we turn the other way. We let stress, fear or doubt run the show and as a result we don’t grow. We don’t leap. Thank god I didn’t do this with our soon to be new home.
Wherever you are right now and whatever you are going through don’t turn around when you hit your ‘Upper Limit”. Don’t less stress, doubt or fear change your mind.
YOU ARE ENOUGH. Take a minute and breath that in.
You are enough to leave that relationship that no longer works for you. You are enough to set boundaries with someone that’s unhealthy in your life. You are enough to turn your dreams into projects.
Don’t be the one that stands in your own way of upleveling your life. You are enough. You always have been.
Love,
Zachary
P.S. We got the house!!!