The last time I sent out a blog was this past July. I wrote about intentions vs commitments and the difference between the two.
I wrote about how people intend to do things but sometimes don't follow because they don't have a system in place that guarantees success.
But what I didn't write about is what happens if you don't honor your commitment to yourself? What happens if your system breaks down? That's what's really important here in my opinion.
When You’re Terrified of Conflict: Why True Intimacy Means Speaking Up
This article was first published on tinybuddha.com. You can view it here as well.
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I walked on eggshells in my relationship. I did for the past ten years.
I tried to design everything out of my mouth to lead to the least amount of friction between my wife and me. And you know what? It hurt our relationship.
I don't want to....
I don’t know what to write right now. Seriously, everything coming through my fingers onto the screen looks and sounds horrible. This is the last thing I want to be doing.
I’d rather be paying my bills or cleaning my townhome. I’d rather be doing laundry or washing my car. Oh that reminds me, I need to drop off my dry cleaning tomorrow morning.
Both sides of the coin
There was a job a number of years ago that I really wanted to get. It was a remote role and I immediately reached out to someone that I knew within the organization expressing my interest.
When the acquaintance got back to me saying they would be happy to share my resume with the hiring manager I believed in my heart that the job was mine. I was convinced that it was my job to lose.
Taking responsibility
What's your filter?
I was a guest on the Commitment Phobe podcast last year which is hosted by wonderful human being – Tanai Milgram. We had a great conversation during the recording and I left feeling really good about showing up and being of service by sharing my story.
But when I listened to the recording, I immediately judged myself. There were a couple of times during the course of the recording where I was asked one thing, and I went off on a completely different tangent, not even answering the host’s question.
How to break up with toxic shame
What's holding you back?
What are you willing to struggle for?
How do you want to feel today?
Where are you on your ladder?
Are you familiar with the ladder of consciousness? In the simplest of terms – it’s a ladder. But for the sake of this article – it’s so much more.
At the top is where we have access to things like creativity, imagination, gratitude and problem solving to name a few. It’s where we operate at our highest capacity or potential.
Obstacles ARE the way
A Way Forward When Your Past Gets Triggered
The Unlived Life Within You
What must we let go of in order to grow?
Twelve years ago there were parts of my life that were calling for expansion yet I wasn’t doing anything about it. I wasn’t going for my dreams or exploring new things. I wasn’t expanding the boundaries of my comfort zone and embracing the unknown or living without limits.
How good can you stand it?
Imagine What Your Life Could Look Like
Do you manage your outer life to make you feel better on the inside? Let me give you an example of what this looks like.
I have always hated my curly, ginger-red hair. Growing up it was different from everyone else’s, and “different” in my mind was a bad thing. I thought if I was different, then you might not like me and if you didn’t like me that meant I was rejected.
Mental Tennis, Anyone?
As a life coach, I have the privilege of helping people become who they really are inside and identifying anything in the way of that. Seeing what’s in the way and then overcoming it is what turns a good life into a great life.
No matter how successful someone is, there’s always opportunities for growth. These are usually subconscious habits and behaviors that if we were aware of them we would just stop.
Cherry on Top - An Early Mother's Day Story
As a coach and a writer I’m in the business of personal transformation using everything for learning, growth and upliftment. Not only do I walk clients through this(and people that I love), but I myself walk this path.
Recently, I had an incredible interaction with my coach which lead to me making a decision that changed my life forever. Here's what I learned.